1. Be kind.
Kindness is wildly attractive. So be kind to everyone. Everyone you meet and those you haven’t met yet. Exercise kindness and speak highly of everyone. Be aware that everyone has a story to tell.
2. High school really doesn’t matter at all.
To this day, I will tell you that high school was the worst four years of my life. But the thing is, none of it matters. I didn’t recognize this until I was halfway through my first semester of college – but I’m telling you the truth. During those four years, you’re stuck in a building with a specific group of people. Certain individuals set standards of what is right and wrong – but here’s the thing: you don’t have to listen to them. Do whatever the f*ck you want, because you’re going to forget their names and faces in a couple years anyways.
3. If you want it done right, do it yourself.
Nobody can get the job done quite like you can. That doesn’t mean you’re inferior/superior to others, it just means that no one will understand your standard of “getting it done” like you will. And vice versa.
4. You won’t remember the nights you got a lot of sleep.
There have been days in my college career, where I wake up at 7am – workout, go to classes, go to the library for several hours, meet for group projects, go and work for 6+ hours and then go out and party with my friends. Then wake up the next day at 7am and go work for 12 hours. It’s rough, but I would not trade these times for anything. Don’t miss out on the amazing memories that are to be made while you are young!
5. Take time to know yourself.
Part of gaining confidence as a young adult is being secure in who you are and what you stand for. You probably hear this cliche a lot – and there’s a reason for that. What are your values? What do you believe in? What do you feel strongly about? Just because someone in your life has a certain opinion doesn’t mean you need to share that opinion.
6. Have an open mind.
Going off of #5, just because you don’t share opinions with others doesn’t mean they’re wrong. Be open minded. Listen to everyone’s side of things and truly try to understand it. People will respect you for it and you will be more intelligent because of it.
7. Stop making excuses for yourself.
I can’t tell you how many times I have fabricated weak excuses in my mind as an attempt to make myself feel better for doing something wrong. Just stop it. Own up to what you did. Realize where you were wrong and fix it.
8. Stop making excuses for other people.
If people want something, they’ll ask. If someone wants to hang out with you, they’ll put in the effort to do so. Stop saying, “Oh I’m sure he’s just busy with other things.” This is true about 5% of the time. You’re just not that person’s priority. This doesn’t make them a bad person, but it means you need to stop bending over backwards for a person who clearly does not care as much.
You don’t need to have a flat six pack of abs, or be able to run a marathon. Just take care of your body and exercise. Make your muscles strong, your core firm…your quality of life will improve because of it.
10. Have goals.
As humans, we need a reason to “rise n shine” in the morning. These reasons are goals. So set some good goals for yourself – the kind of goals that make you spring out of bed in the morning.
11. Water. Water. And more water.
Your body is a machine. You need to keep it well oiled, and you do that by drinking lots and lots of water. Also, it’ll make that hangover 10x more bearable.
12. Don’t be afraid to say no, and don’t be afraid to say yes.
If you don’t want to do something, then don’t do it. It’s literally that simple. You’re going to get shit no matter what you do in life, so you might as well do what you want. On the flip side of that, you should say yes sometimes and introduce spontaneity, adventure and fun into your life!
13. Avoid oversharing.
Firstly, because people don’t deserve to know everything about you. Secondly, for the most part, they don’t care.
14. Never EVER EVER trade authenticity for approval.
Do you know rare it is to find someone who is completely themselves? You will never be 100% content and satisfied with your life, friendships and relationships unless you are yourself. That is when you will attract the kind of people you want into your life.
15. Social media is a waste of time.
But definitely not irrelevant. Use it to build a personal brand for yourself and stay connected with people. Just don’t spend every waking second absorbed in it.
16. Dress cute more often.
Take time to do your hair, makeup and plan out an outfit you feel good in. Your vibe will be better because of it – and you will feel 20x more confident!
17. Get a planner.
Write everything down in that b*tch. And I mean everything. Keep track of finances, commitments, assignments, anything work related…it’ll save you and keep you on top of your sh*t.
18. Money isn’t everything…but it also kinda is.
(I know, every single one of my points has contradicted itself). Here’s the thing: money is freedom. Half of your fun memories are going to be made when you go out on adventures with friends. Whether it’s the bar, a vacation or the movies…money is always involved. Do what you have to do to get to the money. (aka stop being lazy and get a job!!)
19. Overthinking kills.
Don’t turn over a scenario in your head 1500 times. Stop that. You have better things to do! Plus, you will end up fabricating an entirely different situation and it will end up as one gigantic misunderstanding. So just stop overthinking things. If you’re curious, or need answers – just ask.
20. You are not your parents.
Just because they raised you doesn’t mean you need to act like them. I’m not saying your parents are wrong – but if they expect you to be a practicing Catholic, Republican, go to a private college and get a degree in business and take over the family business after college – and that’s NOT what you want – then don’t do that! Learn how to think for yourself. Be who you want to be. Not who others want you to be.
21. Stop taking yourself, and life, so seriously.
You get once chance at life. Stop taking everything so seriously. Laugh it off, smile about it and move the f*ck on!
That’s about all I got for my last 21 years of life. I’ve learned a lot. I’ve suffered, prospered, fell flat on my face and had moments where I swore life could not get any better. Embrace life and enjoy it – everything it has to offer. Here’s to many more years of life!