“Our life is the creation of our mind” –Buddha
Damn, I really like Buddha. I feel like he’s one of those people who could entirely change the course of your life with a thirty second conversation. He already does that through what he’s left behind, but if you could speak with him in person – it’d be a whole other level.
Getting right down to it, our minds are powerful. What we think, we manifest into our lives. Think about it in your own terms. Has a doubtful thought held you back before? A fear created in your mind?
Did you not chase after that goal because something in your mind told you that it was impossible?
Probably. 100% of the population has experienced this. And if you say you haven’t, I’m willing to place my life savings (which isn’t a whole lot, but that’s besides the point) on betting you’re lying.
So the next important question is…how do we change this?
“Rule your mind or it will rule you” –Buddha
Gosh, what a guy.
Today, I have 7 very simple tips to help you shift your mindset towards one that is doubt-free and positive. All you have to do is read them and figure out how you can apply them into your daily life.
Tip #1: The First Thought in the Morning
I have a reminder on my phone. It goes off everyday at 7:00 a.m. Sometimes I’m awake before it, but hopefully not. It says “Today is going to be the best day of your life.” And then I repeat it to myself throughout the day. You have no clue what the day holds for you. Of course, you may have a schedule: classes, work, going out at night…or maybe it’s working 9-5, picking the kids up from daycare, attempting to workout, passing out cold…Don’t forget there can be beauty found in these situations. You may meet an amazing person, have a rare opportunity or experience something WILD. You never know! So set your intention first thing in the morning, so you are open to receiving greatness all day long.
Tip #2: Gratitude
Right after you set your intention, think of TEN things you are grateful for. 1-0. 10. List them off. They can be things such as “family” or “receiving another day” or “my job.” Or it could be something as little as “my morning coffee” or “the color blue” or “my hair”, etc, etc, etc. Whatever comes to mind, state it! If you don’t want to do this out loud, I recommend writing it in some kind of journal, or even the Notes app on your phone.
Tip #3: Train Your Mind to be Individual
With social media, everyone seems to have an opinion. A strong opinion at that. That they will stop at no ends to voice and are insistent on reminding everyone that their opinion is the only right one and everyone else is wrong. If this is you, stop. I’m not saying you shouldn’t have an opinion – having opinions, values and beliefs is very important. As is voicing them. But remaining open to other people’s opinions, values and beliefs is equally as important. You don’t have to change yours because someone else thinks differently. Hear what they say, decide if you agree/disagree with it and move on.
Tip #4: Turning Negatives into Positives
“I got fired today. I’m jobless, I’m going to be poor, I’m gonna lose my house, I’m never gonna find another job.”
“My boyfriend broke up with me. I’m unlovable, ugly and I’m going to die alone.”
“Look, another unaccomplished goal. Can I do anything right?”
If this sounds anything like your thoughts, it’s time to stop and really read what I’m about to say.
Opportunities are presented to us every single day. Your life is unfolding before you, and everything is happening exactly how it should. So frickin breathe!
If you lost your job: did you even like it? Were you truly happy? With your coworkers and the job itself and the income? This is a chance to start over fresh. Maybe you want to move to a new area. Maybe your co-workers sucked or your job sucked. Or if it was all fresh and dandy? Maybe life decided you were getting too comfortable and needed a challenge.
If your boyfriend dumped you, life is giving you a big fat chance to become the best version of yourself. To love yourself more, become more independent and show the world YOU ARE A BOSS!
If you keep failing at reaching your goals, it’s time to sit down and think about why. Life is giving you a chance to regroup and reassess. Do you even want these goals? Or is it something someone else wants? Go back to the drawing board.
Tip #5: Slow Down
If you’re anything like me, or the rest of the population, your mind is moving at incredible speeds. We are trained to live fast, busy and stressful lives, leaving little room for a quiet, rational thinking process.
Next time you feel your mindset slipping down the gutter, carve out some extra time in your day to reflect. What’s going on? What needs fixing? Why do you feel stressed/depressed/angry/anxious/etc.?
Respect yourself enough to take the time to listen to yourself.
Tip #6: Project Good onto Others
Sometimes the fastest way to get perspective is through others. When you do something good for someone else, dopamine, serotonin and oxytocin are released in your brain, creating something coined as “the Happiness Trifecta.”
So next time you’re feeling down or just not quite yourself, instead of trying to fix yourself, try to help someone else. This could be something as simple as doing an odd job for someone, paying for the person behind you at Starbucks or lending a listening ear (and TRULY listening!!) to someone else’s problems.
Tip #7: It’s Okay to Be Negative
If you think you can be positive, happy, sunshine and lollipops 24/7, you’re being naïve and setting yourself up for failure. That’s just the ugly truth. And as you already know – the truth hurts.
So don’t beat yourself up for thinking negatively from time to time! It’s actually healthy. Just commit to working on reshaping those negative thoughts into positive thoughts. Deal?