I am about as far from perfect as you can get. I’ve made a lot of mistakes in my twenty years of life. I’ve hurt people, and I’ve been hurt. I’ve lied, I’ve cheated…I’m human. None of us are perfect. After all, they say that if we were perfect we wouldn’t need God. And what’s a world without him?
Anyways, back in September, during the blog launch I posted a blog regarding my freshman year of college. You can read it here. Some people weren’t very happy with me after reading it. They felt attacked, hurt and exposed. Although my point wasn’t to hurt them, and the blog post wasn’t written as revenge, I understood why they felt humiliated.
As for moving past regret here is what I have found.
- Confront it. I am no good at holding grudges. It makes me feel bad. And it’s a waste of time. I think it is perfectly reasonable to need some space from a situation or a person. Once you’re ready, confront the problem and work together to move past it.
- Forgive but don’t forget. This is a phrase my parents raised me by. Forgiveness is essential, but don’t forget. Don’t hold the person to it, but just keep it on a mental file.
- You’re not always right. In fact, you’re rarely 100% right. You might feel stupid admitting you did something wrong, but you’ll just look stupider if you deny it, well knowing you were in the wrong.
- LISTEN to what they have to say. So you “talk it out” with someone. Don’t interrupt. Don’t have a comeback for everything. Don’t get smart. Don’t contradict everything. Truly hear what they’re saying before giving your side of things.
All in all, just chill out. Situations are never as bad as they seem. As long as you are upfront and honest, owning up to your actions may sting at first, but it will pay off later. ALWAYS be the bigger person and I promise, it will catch up with you.